It is possible your wife is wearing the pants in your relationship and you haven’t even realized.
Many men enter into so called “equal relationships” with the best of intentions, only to realize years later that there has been nothing equal about it at all!
An “equal relationship” is simply a euphemism for a female-dominated relationship.
How does your relationship stack up in these 7 areas?
Are you living a full and happy existence?
Do you even remember what it feels like to be a man?
7 Signs your girlfriend or wife is wearing the pants
1) You have to ask her to have sex
It has sadly become the status quo that most men have to ask their wives to have sex with them.
Men speak of “getting lucky” with their wives, or their girlfriends “putting out”.
Every time I hear this, it disgusts me to the pit of my stomach – as it should disgust you!
Modern men forget that they have natural common-law conjugal rights, that were only persecuted from the 1970s onwards. In fact marital rape was only established in English law from 1991.
The most insidious part of this status quo is that by asking for sex, men instantly eliminate the #1 component of erotic tension – power.
What happens in a healthy relationship: you screw her at any time and place of your choosing, at your will. The very act of taking her against her will, makes her wet for you immediately.
2) You routinely cook dinner or do the washing up
Many otherwise healthy men routinely cook for their wives. They have been fooled into thinking “I enjoy cooking”, as they attempt to self-rationalise their shameful femininised behaviour.
Think about it from a different perspective. What other, more enjoyable and masculine activities could you be doing whilst your wife is cooking for you? You could be spending the time working on your business and other entrepreneurial activities, earning money! You could be be fixing up those odd jobs around the house that need doing. You could be training martial arts, preparing to defend your family against attackers, or teaching your son the importance of integrity and accountability! Why would a masterful man waste his valuable time in the kitchen?
Take a close look at what your wife is doing whilst you are cooking for her. Is she perhaps watching television – diluting her awareness of life in a sea of pitiful and malignant tripe – or wallowing in a glib and vapid ocean of foolish jibber jabber on Facebook? Or – let me guess – she is at work, or doing something relating to her career. All whilst you fill the traditional female role of staying in the kitchen and cooking food!
Sure, I enjoy cooking from time to time – I am an awesome chef. But I reserve my cooking skills for that rare occasion when I wish to demonstrate my mastery in that skill. My time on a routine basis provides a mu h more valuable return if invested elsewhere.
Don’t fool yourself that you enjoy cooking so much that you sacrifice your valuable time and thus your potential opportunities in life to do it. If that’s the case, become a professional chef. Professional chefs are the only exception to this rule.
What happens in a healthy relationship: the woman does all the cooking and cleaning and constantly looks for ways to improve her cooking to please you.
3) The world revolves around her career
This is a case guaranteed to be all too common!
If a couple has no children, there is no issue with the women having a job. However, this does not mean the entire world should resolve around her and her work!
If a couple have children, the women must put her career on ice until all the children are at school. Then, if she wishes, she can re-enter part time employment.
If the focus of her life is directed towards her job, what energy will she have left for you and the family?
Elevating her ‘career’ onto a special pedestal is the same as saying “I am more important than you”. For a women to prioritise her job is self-serving and narcissistic. By investing all her time in this ‘career’, she is investing all her time in herself.
In the natural world, a woman sacrifices herself for the long-term benefit of her family. She deploys her natural nurturing and care-giving instincts, for the betterment of the bloodline.
What happens in a healthy relationship: if the women works, it is a distant last-place to the needs of the family. Her world revolves around you and she loves it.
4) She expects you to follow her orders
I see it day after day. When you remove the veil from your eyes and behold the truth, you will see it too.
Men walking in the supermarket, as if on leashes. Their wives walk them as if dogs.
Whilst you unwittingly entered the relationship placing your trust in the theory of “equal rights”, the practice is far different. Women will rush to fill the power vacuum left in the absence of your natural male dominance and will literally begin to tell you what to do. It may start slowly, but it is a rapidly descending slope.
This may come in the form of direct orders, or dominantly phrased rhetoric questions, e.g., “Could you go and do this for me, honey?”
The reality is that women want to be told what to do and if you assert yourself as a good husband in this regard, she will be happier than ever before.
What happens in a healthy relationship: she does exactly as you tell her to do and if she needs something of you she requests it politely and respectfully.
5) She continually nags you
There is nothing more insidious in a women than nagging. This is exactly why men must spank their wives, to combat such emasculating and rude behaviour.
The media has steadily fed men the lie that “nagging” is somehow natural and expected. We have been programmed to believe that a wife is naturally a ‘ball and chain’ that will constantly ‘nag’ her foolish husband, who is ‘deserving’ of this derision. The implication is that the husband is weak and is being justly apprehended by his wife for this fact.
In fact, the complete opposite is true. A man takes the lead in providing for his family and his wife is there to offer her every assistance to him. A good wife is like her husband’s Personal Assistant and should be continually thinking of ways she can help to drive forward the direction that the man has set for the family.
What happens in a healthy relationship: she continually supports your every effort with practical assistance where she can
6) She talks down to you
This can start so slowly that many men do not even realise it is happening.
What would be gasped at 50 years ago as unforgivable petulance and disrespect, is now routinely acknowledged as expected behaviour.
The situation is compounded by subliminal programming from the media, where men are portrayed as buffoons and women as heroes. I stopped listening to the radio or watching the TV a long time ago. Next time you are watching some ghastly shite via these mediums, pay close attention to the dynamic between male and female co-presenters. Chances are, the women openly mocks the man, deriding him and reducing him to an emasculated caricature of a true male.
Many men are so used to being on the receiving end of this disgusting behaviour, that it may come as a shock to them to find that a true woman does exactly the opposite. Rather than talking down to her man, she praises his leadership and valuable male characteristics. She looks upto him and regularly reminds him of what a great job he does providing for her and the family.
Can you imagine what you would be capable of with a women like this behind you?
This is still the norm in non-Westernised cultures such as Singapore and India.
What happens in a healthy relationship: she lovingly praises and supports you, like your own personal cheer leader.
7) She won’t allow you to make decisions
One of a man’s most fundamental roles in a relationship is as the decision maker. He is entrusted to consider the greater good of the family. He is entrusted to follow his instincts for the long-term prosperity and survival of his bloodline. Whilst a man may often seek his woman’s input or guidance on major life decisions, ultimately the decision is his.
By claiming ‘veto’ rights on the basis of an ‘equal relationship’ where “everybody contributes the same”, the sly women establishes an unhealthy power framework where she has eroded the man’s most fundamental and valuable contribution to the relationship. A relationship is not a jury or a council committee, where votes are taken. A relationship is an exchange of power and resources, based on agreed terms.
Millions of modern men are living unhappy and emasculated lives, as they have naively forfeited one of the principal tenets of their masculinity: the ability to lead and direct a family.
The truth is that a good women wants to be lead by a good husband and will trust in him to make good decisions.
What happens in a healthy relationship: the man makes the decisions, based on his strategic direction for the family and in consultation with his women where he deems fit.
What to do now
Take a long hard look at your own relationship.
If it plays out like this article describes, then I have some sad news for you:
It’s too late buddy, she has already lost her respect for you. Your chances of changing the power dynamic once things have slid into this sorry state are very slim.
The good news is:
You have the rest of your life to lead and there are still plenty of good women left – with whom you should form a healthy male-led relationship.
Lift the veil from your eyes and kick the bitch to the curb today.
Yours
Rodney Hand
Hi Mr. Rodney,
I just want to thank you for taking a stand against our hopeless culture, and would like to encourage you that all your efforts are not in vain at all (even your efforts concerning the mgtow crowd, i didnt want to draw myself attention in the actual comment section but i believe you are spot on in how to approach this. The mgtow crowd must have had some crazy women in their life and clearly it takes time to break through their walls now….way to keep calm!.) In general.when people get defensive that means you did a good job hitting the true issue 😉
I have read most of your articles, and they are raw and sometimes very….”uncouth” lol I guess is the term, but its awesome in that it comes off very masculine and in the core of my being I know what you say is true.
I am a wife of 7 years and mother of 3. I was never an actual feminist but I always had considered myself “strong and independent.” The past month or two I have finally begun to understand what the essense of true femininity is, which is weakness and vulnerability; and is actually a very beautiful thing in that it weilds an entirely different form of “power,” per se, it sure beats trying to compete with men brawn for brawn….impossible.
Growing up, the ONlY reason I went to college and got a useless degree was because it was presented as the only intelligent thing to do. Every time I was asked what I want to be when I grow up, while prestigiously saying something like a microbiologist, in my head I was thinking…. I just want to be a mom. There is still so much value in “just being a mom,” most societal problems stem from the motherly figure and nuturing being absent. Anyone can take care of the babies’ physical needs, anyone can slave away at Starbucks, but I am the only one that can be mom to my kiddos and thats not just a title, its a lifestyle. It is a sacrificial one, and man is it way more fulfilling than trying to earn another measly $500 a month that would be offset by daycare costs anyway.
While our marriage isnt bad at all, I had been praying God will show us how to have a better one. A month ago I learned and convicted about the womans innate submissive nature, how we are not to try to “beat men” but to embrace our own genius per se. We are indeed the weaker vessel, I need help opening a jar of jam for crying out loud…
And a week ago I learned of domestic discipline. God has a sense if humor cuz man 5 years ago I would have thought myself insane if I were to consider suggesting to my husband he needs to spank me..and look at me now 😀
I know for a fact I had a very competative mindset towards my husband (I grew up with 5 brothers so in that environment you kinda get used to smack talking at males.) I even considered myself a good wife. Maybe compared to the American standard I am, but knowing that almost amounts to nothing compared to other cultures and the generations past… I am a piece of work. I have been rude, bitchy, disrespectful, disobedient, lazy….and on top of that spoiled.
My husband is getting the hang of things, he told me he wishes we knew about this years ago. He is a very honorable man and tries to live with integrity, but he does indeed cherish and love me. Its amazing what he let me get away with until he realized he doesnt have to.
Its amazing how much Im so used to doing things wrong towards him, he surely does deserve better. I was spanked for the 3rd time in 3 days last night, over his knee, skirt hiked up, panties pulled down. I have high pain tolerance but wow it hurts like f*ck when he spanks me, and its only 50% of what he could do he said. (Note I am a small woman but I go to the gym regularly, lift heavy, and am usually considered “strong” for my gender. Sad knowing he let me spank him as hard as I could a few years ago, it didnt hurt him at all but my hand felt like it had been crushed! Not including the rare exception of butch dykes, in general women are designed much more delicately.)
After making sure my butt was flaming red, he f*cked my brains out. While kind to me, he is indeed rough during sex, and I love it. I mean we have 3 kids for a reason lol so he s figured out how to f*ck me for awhile, but recently its been more intense on a whole ‘nother level. It was a humbling realization that the latter half of the hour since he’d start pounding me, when he’d take me from behind, on my knees, my red sore butt high with my face pushed into the blankets and my hands clinging to the sheets for dear life… all I can do is helplessly moan with pleasure and think about his cock. Ive even said sporadically during it, “this is all I ever want, this is all I ever want, thank you for f*cking me! Thank you for sharing your cock with me!”
Laying there in a quivering mess next to him, my voice barely above a whisper I pathetically said “Im so helpless in like everything!..,” he kissed me and said, “Thats why youre mine.” Went straight to the deepest part of my soul. I could barely walk, he carried me upstairs…and all this time Ive been commanding him around as if somehow I wear the pants around here – its kinda embarassing now actually, and looking back to how I used to behave without a care towards him like an entitled bratty teenager…..I really do deserve to be spanked….hard
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It is indeed mind boggling how this lost art is condemned yet 50 shades of grey is adored by millions of women. I mean how isnt this the better version of that garbage isnt it basically the same idea!? It is indeed almost as if our society has been twisted in such a backwards way its some dark form of attack on humanity itself.
I do have to note too, that having this new perspective doesnt mean he doesnt care to know my opinion for important decisions, hes got what it takes to make decisions without my input, but his willingness to value and hear my input just makes me respect him so much more.
Anyway, im sorry for the very long comment but I just felt like sharing a little bit of positive feedback to maybe make up for all the heat you get
I know we as a couple have benefitted from your articles, please please dont ever stop writing! Thank you for your efforts – those that arent ready will just lash out at you, but there are those like us who, by the grace of God, have had our pride broken and can *finally see things in the whole “new” time tested way you promote.
Thank you again. Carry on, soldier, carry on!
LittleSparrow
Hi LittleSparrow,
Thank you so much for your wonderful comment – it was my pleasure to read!
This article is sexist & promotes than the male should be dominant in a relationship. It should be a partnership, no one person being in charge….
uhhhhh yes? that’s the point. this is a website for men and women who dont believe in the feminist utopian dream and want a man leading the relationship. the modern equality thing isn’t working for all people. so they’re looking for other ways. personally i dont engage in relationships here in the western world because people like you control the court system. to me relationships in the western world are simply not worth the costs and the risks anymore. feminism has fxxxxx it all up. the people here (man and women) are looking to restore the male/female relationship. i only have one message for women like you. fish… bicycle … bye bye!
Olivia, it’s funny you should say this because 46% of marriages end in divorce, and there is a reason why the divorce rates are higher now than before the 1960s, that’s the fault of feminism and the empowerment of women, in most western relationships nowadays the women lead the relationship, there is no equal in the relationship, and in most cases the woman leads the man and this leads to unhappiness, depression and unfulfilled lives. I know because my parents are like that, they may not have all the signs mentioned in this post in their relationship but they have more than one that’s for sure. Just read the website and you’ll understand, everything is made with consent. And to answer Ben’s question, I’d say also that you can follow what Rodney Hand prescribes and you will be happy I guarantee it, and about the court system, it’s simple just don’t ever get married, nowadays marriage is a rip off and is made to the benefit of only the woman. Still not convinced? Let me explain: When you get married it costs a lot of money (from the engagement ring, to the marriage itself), then if you get a divorce no matter who did what, you get half of your possessions and money taken away from you, she could have cheated on you but to the law it’s still your fault, also after the divorce in most cases the woman gets the children and you have to pay child support until they reach 18 years old. The solution? it’s very simple just don’t get married, you don’t get any benefit from getting married so why should you? Because society says so? Because people say it’s for your own good? Don’t believe the hype of average pathetic life. Follow the advice from this blog (you can start by reading the basics by going on the dropdown menu on the top of the page, and then you can read the other 24 blog posts that are on this site. Read the articles, and apply them to your life.
Ben, you don’t know the first thing about “Olivia”. You’ve fabricated an entire construct in your head and then proceeded to argue with it. You are clearly not legally adept and you have been so rude and insulting that it can only stem from an inferiority complex. Respect and admiration is reserved to people with admirable attributes, regardless of gender. This is exactly where this bitterness and need for dominance comes from, a lacking of respectable/admirable/impressive qualities.
Both Olivia and Amused are the product of feminazis Rodney is talking about.
MEN HAVE THE ROLE OF LEADING THE HOUSE.
MEN LEAD, WIVES SUBMIT.
ALSO MEN ARE MEANT TO LOVE THEIR WIVES.
Different roles and equal.
Get it thru your head and apologise to the readers.
I’ve seen relationships where the women is by far the most accomplished professionally of the two — with the most viable path for making money compared to the man (e.g. because she’s a medical doctor).
In these situations it seems that barring a breakup and her dating someone far more dominant, the natural equilibrium that makes sense could be some form of “female-led” arrangement where the man does more domestic work to support the family units interests, which in this case is the higher incomes of the wife.
This is why such relationships will always and in misery. The woman unhappy because she has nobody to look upto. The man unhappy because he is not leading.
Honestly, it’s one of the few examples of a relationship I’ve seen where the women was happy dating a more submissive man.
She married WAY down the status ladder, to the chagrin of even her family. This makes me think there was something else going on that made the two of them strong as a couple.
That‘s sad. Guys, who haven‘t got near a pussy yet, read that and will say: „hey it‘s all The modern world‘s fault!“ and go to bed in Order to rub themselves! This is disgusting! You are disgusting! I‘m a man and I enjoy The thougt of a good adult discussion in a marriage or a relationship in Order to make a decision that makes everybody happy! This ‚Equal relationships‘ work! You are a sick and a pervert!
Well said. Martyn Lloyd-Jones, a Calvinist Welsh minister, astutely observed back in the 1950s on his first visit to the United States how feminized our culture had become even then. The feminist culture has emasculated men, and I, for one, am sick of dating male wimps. “Where have all the cowboys gone?”