Domestic discipline isn’t reserved for the Amish, Mormons and other hard core, righteous Godly folks.
Spanking your wife isn’t purely the domain of extreme BDSM fetishists.
In fact, all the way upto 1960, wife spanking was a common every-day household activity.
And it’s more relevant today than ever before.
If you want to have a successful, healthy long-term relationship with a Western women, then you absolutely must enforce discipline in the relationship.
Never in history have we seen a generation of such ill-behaved, rude and poorly mannered women as those with which we have to deal today.
A mixture of unregulated feminism, a watering down of masculinity and our hyper-indulgent post WWII society has created a generation of women that subconsciously crave a spanking more than ever before.
I use the word ‘wife’ and ‘girlfriend’ interchangeably in this article.
This article examines now to implement a relationship model I call ‘The Modern Male Led Relationship’.
Taken in hand? But how?
Firstly, let’s look at 3 popular relationship models that involve a man disciplining his partner. We will examine why these are unworkable for the modern man.
Christian Domestic Discipline
This is completely unworkable for the modern man.
Firstly, unless you are a deeply religious fellow, it just doesn’t apply.
Secondly, there is no clear framework of consent. Folk practicing CDD take the woman’s wedding vows as her consent to be physically punished and she is unable to withdraw her consent thereafter.
- Chances are close to zero you will find a women willing to agree to this model.
- You are tied into a marriage!
- Impractical should she actually change her mind and wish to leave the relationship.
- Ambiguous terms of consent since there is no signed contract.
Typical BDSM Contract
Your typical BDSM contract is riddled with extreme and off-putting language and incomprehensible acronyms.
You are likely to have some difficulty in convincing your girlfriend to sign-up to something like this – and that’s if you even understand it yourself!
- Most BDSM contracts are geared towards ‘master’ and ‘slave’ style relationships, which are too extreme for the modern gentleman.
- Long list of ‘soft limits’ and ‘hard limits’ difficult to digest and off putting to the lay person who simply has a need to discipline his girlfriend for poor behaviour.
Taken in Hand Relationship
This is the most workable of the models you might come across. This style of “taken in hand” relationship focuses on a traditional, husband led marriage where the man wears the pants. However, it still has a number of shortcomings that make it impractical for the modern man:
- Doesn’t provide a framework to deal with ‘brainwashed’ modern women who innately crave a male’s control yet have been socially programmed to resist this.
- Hard to apply for the modern man who simply needs to discipline his girlfriend and enforce his natural conjugal rights.
- More applicable to long term marriages with deep emotional connections.
- Most examples of this relationship seem to be female initiated (which is great, but a rare exception).
A Model For The Modern Male Led Relationship
Let’s lay down some basics for what a Modern Male Led Relationship means.
The principals that will occur to any thoughtful gentlemen who goes about his business in the modern world is as follows:
- All women need to be spanked – as evidenced by their poor behaviour
- It is a man’s duty to spank his woman – any man that eschews this responsibility is foolish and weak
- A man has natural conjugal rights and should exercise these at his will.
So the modern man faces four major dilemmas when entering into a serious relationship:
Firstly, he can virtually guarantee her behaviour will at times be rude, brat-like and disrespectful.
Secondly, the chances are high that she has been socially programmed to expect an “equal relationship”. The thought of the man being in charge – or God forbid, spanking her – will likely be foreign and off-putting to her.
Thirdly, the chances are very high that she has been programmed to believe in ‘consenting’ each time she has sex. This will instantly emasculate the man if he allows it to happen.
Lastly, we live in a litigious society, where any suggestion of physical abuse or non-consensual sex can result in charges of rape and/or assault. The modern gentleman needs to address this risk, ensuring he has documented evidence of consent.
By going through a simple 5 step process, the wily gentlemen who desires a male led relationship can overcome these 4 challenges and still establish a healthy male led relationship with 90% of brainwashed modern Western women.
1) Physical Readiness
The essential relationship between a man and a women is based on your sexual domination of her.
Simply put, you need to be ready to be the best she has ever had.
Training for sexual performance is an absolute pre-requisite if you do not already possess the required level of physical strength and fitness.
Do not underestimate this. If you are not the best she has ever had, the relationship will eventually fail.
2) Emotional and Mental Readiness
This one is more difficult.
As hard as it is to write this, you need to ask yourself whether you are truly ready to spank your women.
When you take over responsibility to discipline a women, you take on responsibility for her mental and physical wellbeing.
You need to be able to take care of yourself before you put yourself in a position where you are taking care of another person.
To the defence of many men, our cultural definition of what a husband is has been so eroded over the past 50 years that it should be of no surprise that many of us are lacking these attributes.
In generations past it would have simply been expected than a man discipline his wife.
3) Sexual Domination and Verbal Re-Programming
This is where the fun beings.
Once you are regularly giving her the best, most dominant sex of her life, her submissive emotional inner-core will be exposed and ripe for re-programming.
You need to verbally re-program her during sex.
Do this when she is emotionally overcome during sex using strong direct commands, whilst staring directly into the middlemost point of her pupils.
“You are entering into a relationship in which you will be spanked for poor behaviour”.
“You’ve gotten away with far too much in your life so far but you’ve finally met somebody that’s not gunna take your shit”
“When you are rude or disrespect I will put you over my knee and spank you. Do you understand?”
Prior to this point you should be giving her subtle hints about spanking and your views on relationships. Your verbal commands should not come as a complete shock to her, but rather as a continuation of a theme you are building on.
This is effective because it raises the possibility of a submissive, male-led relationship within the frame of sexual fantasy. If you mix up these commands with other sexual, dirty talk, she will not know where fantasy and reality begins and ends. She will be turned on by the commands you are giving her and this will enable her to enter the Intellectualisation and Rationalisation phase with a mindframe that she is already half way on a journey that she is enjoying.
Whatever you do, don’t attempt to commence the Intellectualisation and Rationalization phase prior to having her sexually dominated and verbally re-programmed!
If you want more detailed instructions on how to carry out Verbal Re-Programming (with lots more examples), you’ll like my hard-hitting guide – Sassy to Submissive in 6 Weeks.
In parallel with continuous sexual domination and verbal re-programming, you also need to commence the intellectualisation and rationalisation phase.
4) Intellectualisation and Rationalisation
In defence of today’s woman, she has not had it easy.
Just as the current generation of women lack traditional femininity, the average modern man is also weak and foolish. The modern women has been bought up in a culture that teaches us behaviours must be intellectually rationalised.
She has been innocently programmed that she should be a ‘feminist’ just as much as many men have been unwittingly convinced they should be ‘nice guys’.
Given this cultural zietgeist, it is essential that your women is able to intellectualise and rationalise her new role – as this will be a major life change for her.
Assist her on this journey, by explaining and discussing in depth with her the relevant facts.
Expound upon these general premises with sound intellectual reason:
- Women are naturally submissive, as their innate biological role is to reproduce and nurture children
- Men are natural leaders whose biological imperative is to protect and provide.
- She is emotionally repressed and has been fooled by society into becoming out of touch with her innate submissive nature.
- You are a traditional gentleman who takes his role as head of household very seriously and believes in proper discipline.
- The benefits of domestic discipline are many
- As a traditional man you would not consider any other type of relationship in this day and age.
Expect this phase to take up to a month, as she gradually becomes more submissive and learns to enjoy that feeling not just inside the bedroom but outside.
Once she is at this stage, she will be receptive to discussing and agreeing a relationship contract.
If you find a girl that is sufficiently psychologically damaged that she can’t rationalise it – simply invest no further time on her and move on!
You will strongly increase your chances of success with this method if you go for woman under 30 years of age.
The older the woman, the more years of built up social programming there is to chip away at.
5) Preparing and Signing the Relationship Contract
The contract itself is a very simple document that you can type in a word processor, or you can even use a simple email. As long as she replies with ‘I agree’.
You can see what a relationship contract should contain here.
If you want to enforce your natural conjugal rights, make sure you follow my 3 recommended rules for the best relationship of your life.
Want to complete this process with your new girlfriend in 6 weeks? Need a Relationship Contract template ready to go? Check out The Modern Male-Led Relationship.
So there you have it.
A modern male led relationship is so powerful that it enables you to reverse the damage done by decades of social programming and have your women get back in touch with and embrace her inner submissive nature
By including these skills in your toolset, you open up opportunities in an entire demographic of emotionally repressed women that may otherwise not have been available on such amenable terms.
What’s more, you are likely on your way to the most balanced, emotionally fulfilling and healthy relationship you have ever had!