What is love?
Merely an emotion.
Do smart men make decisions based on emotion?
Being driven by emotion is a feminine trait.
Great men make informed and calculated decisions based on rational judgement.
You’ve probably been led to believe in a fantasy that doesn’t exist.
We’ve all been told “It’s love that makes the world go round”.
This concept is rotten and emasculating.
You want the truth about love?
Why Smart Men Don’t Need Love
Gender and Emotion
Ever noticed there are emotional differences between men and woman, but struggled to understand why?
When God is dishing out height, strength, genitalia, intelligence and gender – he also dishes out emotion.
It’s all dished out on a tilted scale (or a bell curve).
On the one end of the scale is the histrionic woman. We have all seen her. Incapable of self control, she is at the complete mercy of her emotions, which drive her behaviours. Her emotions completely subsume her. When she loves, she loves hard and give her entire being. When she is angry, her blood boils and drives her to blind rage. When she is sad, she comes within reach of taking her own life.
On the other end, is the architypical emotionless male psychopath. These men act based on self-preservation, rational logic and the relentless pursuit of their goals. Emotion, when it does appear to these people, is more of a novelty to be examined and disregarded. Your typical CEO, high ranking politician, buddhist monk or army officer falls into this category.
In the middle of the curve, but leaning towards the bottom is your average woman.
In the middle of the curve, but leaning towards the top, is your average man.
Think about it.
All the typical and classical femine traits – nurturing, caring, empathy, kindness – all are driven directly by emotion.
All the traditional masculine traits – mastery, courage, integrity, honour, discipline – are rational constructs driven by consistent behavioral decisions and not emotion.
What is Real Love?
We’ll start at the beginning.
The emotion of love is a biological response, designed to encourage short-term pair bonding. Just as the emotion of fear is a biological response designed to encourage self-preservation.
All emotions can be mastered.
Before I’m accused of being inhuman by angry trolls, it’s quite the opposite. Mastery of emotion is the height of mindfulness and leads to insight – just ask the Dalai Lama.
Just as the smart man will master anger, fear, jealously, envy, greed and pride – he will also master love.
However, once this largely useless emotion has been mastered, there needs to be something to replace it with. In the absence of the emotion itself, the wily modern gentlemen needs a workable alternative.
Rather than the popular fairy tale, disney land notion of love – where the man becomes a whimpering, pussy-whipped, out-of-control slave to emotion – the smart modern gent adheres to tangible notion of love based on demonstrable behaviors and measurable results.
Real love is measured not by how a man and a woman feel towards each other, but how they act towards each other.
The classic display of a man’s love is his willingness to risk his life to save his woman’s. When a man loves a woman he will run into a burning building for her. This is a logical decision driven by courage, bravery and reciprocation of the devotion displayed to him by his woman.
So how do we establish such a framework?
The Power Exchange Relationship
Let’s go back to relationship school.
A relationship based on love, is a relationship destined to fail.
Love, like all temporary emotions, will fade. If you want a lasting relationship that will endure, it needs to be based on something more concrete.
With power exchange, the relationship is established on an exchange of resources based on agreed terms.
In a modern male-led relationship, a man requires his woman to act politely, deferentially and with good manners at all times. She will manage the cooking, the cleaning and the care of the children. In return, the man will lead the family toward long-term prosperity, guide and discipline his woman when she requires it and provide her with her primary source of overwhelming pleasure via sexual mastery.
This exchange of resources is clearly laid out and agreed in a relationship contract.
For the modern man, emotional love need not come into it.
But, shouldn’t a man feel bad if his disregards the popular romantic notion of love?
Dominance Bond vs. Love Bond
A more genuine notion of love is that of an agreed, long-term and mutually satisfying dominance bond.
Why should a man need to feel emotion towards his woman? If she performs her duties, respects him, bares his children and cares for them – then what else is necessary?
A love bond is nothing more than a short-term chemical bond based on sexual attraction.
A dominance bond is a long-term behavioral bond based on agreed, consensual behaviour patterns and mutually satisfying, reciprocated behaviors.
Consensual dominance bonds lead to long-term fulfillment.
This is why I recommend the wily gent rely only on the dominance bond when seeking to establish a healthy long-term relationship.
So, what next?
I suggest you take a long hard look at your own relationship and have a good think about this.
Until next time.